Forwarded, as requested. John R. Barclay Maj, USMC EA to Dir., USMB Office (202) 433-3993 Cell (202) 498-8904 fax (202) 433-4752 john.r.barclay@usmc.mil -----Original Message----- From: Klay 1stLt Ariana B Sent: Thursday, January 20, 2011 8:23 To: Barclay Maj John R; Hudspeth LtCol Nicole K Subject: Email from Maigen Rowe forwarded to me from Capt Jim RoweFW: Fw: Thoughts... Please note the forwarded email's relation to the attached timeline. After this email, Rowe told me that I needed to call Maigan and fix how he I had humiliated him in front of his wife or he would talk to the Command and that no one would believe me about the incident with him and Jeremy. He also had Maigen come over to visit me so I would not commit suicide. This is right after I the incident with Rowe and Jeremy. V/R 1stLt Ariana Klay S-3A /Assistant Operations Officer H&S Bn, HQMC, Henderson Hall Phone: (703).614.3639 FAX: (703).614.7192 ariana.klay@usmc.mil -----Original Message----- From: Ariana Klay [mailto:arianaklay@gmail.com] Sent: Thursday, January 20, 2011 8:18 To: Klay 1stLt Ariana B Subject: Fwd: Fw: Thoughts... ---------- Forwarded message ---------- From: jim rowe <jroweusmc@yahoo.com> Date: Mon, Aug 30, 2010 at 1:27 PM Subject: Fw: Thoughts... To: arianaklay@gmail.com So - I thought I would try to email you what's on my mind. I can never find my words to adequately express myself when I'm on the phone. In no particular order... * Ariana: This is a pretty big one right now, because there is something going on that I can't put my finger on. I know you say you're not cheating, but that doesn't explain the following: * The way you look at and talk to her. You communicate on a very intimate level with her - your body language speaks volumes. * The way she looks at you and talks to me. She looks at you the same way you look at her - there's a level of intimacy there. She is way too complimentary of me. It's like she is buttering me up for some reason. She doesn't treat the other girls the same way - but she doesn't talk to their husbands/fiances/boyfriends like she talks to you either. * You were super weird about going to the Miss DC pageant. You didn't want to go, and then at the last minute you went. You said that it was because of Chris, but I have doubts about that. You're not the kind of guy to go out of your way for others - especially guys as lazy and troublesome as Chris. So why was it so important? After the fact, I find out that Ariana was there, too. She has pictures of you guys at the pageant on her facebook page (I'm not friends with her on facebook - she just doesn't limit who can see her photo albums). It looks like you and Chris were there to be escorts for her and Sonja. There are pictures of you but not Chris - where did he go? You didn't come home that night. * The parade that the pageant girls attended was awkward. This is when you officially started to ignore me at the Center House. I don't know why I even came and subjected myself to the embarassment for the rest of the summer. Hindsight is 20/20, I guess. After this parade was when there were multiple weird texts from Ariana to you.. You said you were trying to make sure that your Marines hooked up with the pageant girls. I gave you the benefit of the doubt, but now I'm not so sure that was the right thing to do. * The staff NCO parade you were totally MIA. It was like you got totally crazy because you knew I wasn't going to be there. You came home and then left in the middle of the night again when you knew I was mad at you. You said you slept in your changing room, but Eric couldn't find you. Eric kept changing his story as to where he looked and what he found/didn't find. It seemed like you were telling him what to say. Where were you? Where did you go? Did you sleep with Ariana that night? Did you meet her somewhere? * The last 2-3 Fridays you have been adament about talking to Ariana alone. The night that you, me, Eric and Lauren were the last ones to leave the Center House and she was on duty - you would not leave the Center House. When we were finally ready to go, Eric, Lauren and I waited outside for you for several minutes because you were inside talking to Ariana. What were you talking about? Why was it so important? * Last Friday was the pinnacle of embarassment. Why was it so important to Ariana that we all go out on 8th street? Why was she asking you before she asked me? When you and Jeremy finally made it to Molly Malone's and Ariana left with Tim and Karin's friend - you practically ran after her. Why did you care if she left with another guy? Were you jealous? If she's Tim's friend - shouldn't HE have been more concerned than you? And again when Jeremy and I were trying to leave with you, you wanted us to give you a minute so that you could talk to Ariana ALONE. What the hell? not too drunk to make sure you had deleted all your messages and call history from your phone. What were you trying to hide from me? You knew that I would check your phone - what did you NOT want me to see? You mentioned something about an investigation * Whether you've physically cheated or just developed a close personal relationship with her - I don't care. I just want to know what is going on. The longer you lie about it, the worse it is going to get. I've been cheated on before - I took too long to address it with Brandon. I will not be put in that position again. I'm trying to believe you and give you the benefit of just being stressed out over this job, but it is getting harder and harder to do. * Drinking: I think I've been pretty forgiving on this front. You have a drinking problem. Admit it. Quit lying to me about how much your drinking. You have not kept to our agreement at all about only having a few beers. As soon as we had that initial conversation, you renigged on it almost immediately. At the dining in you were so wasted it was embarrassing. Time after time I have tried to be forgiving and understanding of the stress that you're under out here. I try to be cool, but it infuriates me that you have taken advantage of me so many times. How much longer do you want me to put up with your lying? You were never planning to just drink a couple of beers. You just wanted me to agree to you drinking again, so you didn't have to hide it all the time from me. You're right - I have become more distant towards you and a bit cold. Can you blame me? You don't hear a word I say. My concern comes across as nagging to you. I don't know what to do - so I'm shutting down. I pray every time that you get so drunk that God will show me the right thing to do and say. Do I go? Do I suffer with a drunk for the rest of my life? * Getting out of the Marine Corps: I don't know what to say about this. I'm sorry if I don't seem more interested in this option right now, but I suppose it is because I've heard this before. You talked about getting out of the Marine Corps when we first moved to DC. You talked about it again about six months ago - before the parade season started. Do I think the Marine Corps is causing our problems? No, I don't. Do I think you'll be happier out of the Marine Corps? No, I don't. I think that you love the Marine Corps and you're a great Marine. What you don't like is that fact that you can't separate yourself from the BS of 8th and I. You saw it when you first checked in and said that you didn't want to become one of them - and that's exactly what you've done. You've become one of the pretentious 8th & I Marine officers. You're only concerned about your reputation and your image - I don't know why you care - you've been working so hard to ruin it as far as I can tell. You say you want to do more and give back to more relevant things - like Haiti relief, etc, but you haven't tried to get more involved in a church or a volunteer community. Why should I believe that you would do any of that if you get out of the Marine Corps? Outside of the Marine Corps, you will still have to get a job - a job where you'll have to belong to corporate America and deal with just as much BS as you did in the Marine Corps just on a different level. I'm sorry if this is coming across as angry - but I am angry. I'm angry. I'm frustrated. I'm hurt. I love you so much, Jim, but I don't' know what to do anymore. I don't want to lose you, but I also don't want to be a fool. I just want you to stop lying to me.
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