FW: Email from Maigen Rowe forwarded to me from Capt Jim RoweFW: Fw: Thoughts...

[Haytham Faraj <haytham@puckettfaraj.com>]

Russ,

See the below.  I had Barclay send it to me after we spoke yesterday.  I
don't recall seeing it before. He believed that the tone of the email
clearly indicated to him that there was a relationship between Klay and Rowe
which Klay denied.

-----Original Message-----
From: Barclay Maj John R [mailto:john.r.barclay@usmc.mil] 
Sent: Tuesday, December 06, 2011 7:02 AM
To: Haytham@puckettfaraj.com
Subject: FW: Email from Maigen Rowe forwarded to me from Capt Jim RoweFW:
Fw: Thoughts...

Forwarded, as requested.

John R. Barclay
Maj, USMC
EA to Dir., USMB
Office (202) 433-3993
Cell (202) 498-8904
fax (202) 433-4752
john.r.barclay@usmc.mil


-----Original Message-----
From: Klay 1stLt Ariana B 
Sent: Thursday, January 20, 2011 8:23
To: Barclay Maj John R; Hudspeth LtCol Nicole K
Subject: Email from Maigen Rowe forwarded to me from Capt Jim RoweFW: Fw:
Thoughts...

Please note the forwarded email's relation to the attached timeline.  After
this email, Rowe told me that I needed to call Maigan and fix how he I had
humiliated him in front of his wife or he would talk to the Command and that
no one would believe me about the incident with him and Jeremy.  He also had
Maigen come over to visit me so I would not commit suicide.  This is right
after I the incident with Rowe and Jeremy. 


V/R
1stLt Ariana Klay
S-3A /Assistant Operations Officer
H&S Bn, HQMC, Henderson Hall
Phone: (703).614.3639
FAX: (703).614.7192
ariana.klay@usmc.mil



-----Original Message-----
From: Ariana Klay [mailto:arianaklay@gmail.com] 
Sent: Thursday, January 20, 2011 8:18
To: Klay 1stLt Ariana B
Subject: Fwd: Fw: Thoughts...



---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: jim rowe <jroweusmc@yahoo.com>
Date: Mon, Aug 30, 2010 at 1:27 PM
Subject: Fw: Thoughts...
To: arianaklay@gmail.com








	So - I thought I would try to email you what's on my mind.  I can
never find my words to adequately express myself when I'm on the phone.  In
no particular order...
	 

	*	Ariana: This is a pretty big one right now, because there is
something going on that I can't put my finger on.  I know you say you're not
cheating, but that doesn't explain the following: 

		*	The way you look at and talk to her.  You
communicate on a very intimate level with her - your body language speaks
volumes.
		*	The way she looks at you and talks to me.  She looks
at you the same way you look at her - there's a level of intimacy there.
She is way too complimentary of me.  It's like she is buttering me up for
some reason.  She doesn't treat the other girls the same way - but she
doesn't talk to their husbands/fiances/boyfriends like she talks to you
either.
		*	You were super weird about going to the Miss DC
pageant.  You didn't want to go, and then at the last minute you went.  You
said that it was because of Chris, but I have doubts about that.  You're not
the kind of guy to go out of your way for others - especially guys as lazy
and troublesome as Chris.  So why was it so important?  After the fact, I
find out that Ariana was there, too.  She has pictures of you guys at the
pageant on her facebook page (I'm not friends with her on facebook - she
just doesn't limit who can see her photo albums).  It looks like you and
Chris were there to be escorts for her and Sonja.  There are pictures of you
but not Chris - where did he go? You didn't come home that night.
		*	The parade that the pageant girls attended was
awkward.  This is when you officially started to ignore me at the Center
House.  I don't know why I even came and subjected myself to the
embarassment for the rest of the summer.  Hindsight is 20/20, I guess.
After this parade was when there were multiple weird texts from Ariana to
you..  You said you were trying to make sure that your Marines hooked up
with the pageant girls.  I gave you the benefit of the doubt, but now I'm
not so sure that was the right thing to do.
		*	The staff NCO parade you were totally MIA.  It was
like you got totally crazy because you knew I wasn't going to be there.  You
came home and then left in the middle of the night again when you knew I was
mad at you.  You said you slept in your changing room, but Eric couldn't
find you.  Eric kept changing his story as to where he looked and what he
found/didn't find.  It seemed like you were telling him what to say.  Where
were you?  Where did you go?  Did you sleep with Ariana that night?  Did you
meet her somewhere?
		*	The last 2-3 Fridays you have been adament about
talking to Ariana alone.  The night that you, me, Eric and Lauren were the
last ones to leave the Center House and she was on duty - you would not
leave the Center House.  When we were finally ready to go, Eric, Lauren and
I waited outside for you for several minutes because you were inside talking
to Ariana.  What were you talking about?  Why was it so important?
		*	Last Friday was the pinnacle of embarassment.  Why
was it so important to Ariana that we all go out on 8th street?  Why was she
asking you before she asked me?  When you and Jeremy finally made it to
Molly Malone's and Ariana left with Tim and Karin's friend - you practically
ran after her.  Why did you care if she left with another guy?  Were you
jealous?  If she's Tim's friend - shouldn't HE have been more concerned than
you?  And again when Jeremy and I were trying to leave with you, you wanted
us to give you a minute so that you could talk to Ariana ALONE.  What the
hell?  not too drunk to make sure you had deleted all your messages and call
history from your phone.  What were you trying to hide from me?  You knew
that I would check your phone - what did you NOT want me to see?  You
mentioned something about an investigation 
		*	Whether you've physically cheated or just developed
a close personal relationship with her - I don't care.  I just want to know
what is going on.  The longer you lie about it, the worse it is going to
get.  I've been cheated on before - I took too long to address it with
Brandon.  I will not be put in that position again. I'm trying to believe
you and give you the benefit of just being stressed out over this job, but
it is getting harder and harder to do.

	 

	*	Drinking: I think I've been pretty forgiving on this front.
You have a drinking problem.  Admit it.  Quit lying to me about how much
your drinking.  You have not kept to our agreement at all about only having
a few beers.  As soon as we had that initial conversation, you renigged on
it almost immediately.  At the dining in you were so wasted it was
embarrassing.  Time after time I have tried to be forgiving and
understanding of the stress that you're under out here.  I try to be cool,
but it infuriates me that you have taken advantage of me so many times.  How
much longer do you want me to put up with your lying?  You were never
planning to just drink a couple of beers. You just wanted me to agree to you
drinking again, so you didn't have to hide it all the time from me.  You're
right - I have become more distant towards you and a bit cold.  Can you
blame me?  You don't hear a word I say.  My concern comes across as nagging
to you.  I don't know what to do - so I'm shutting down.  I pray every time
that you get so drunk that God will show me the right thing to do and say.
Do I go?  Do I suffer with a drunk for the rest of my life?  

	 

	*	Getting out of the Marine Corps: I don't know what to say
about this.  I'm sorry if I don't seem more interested in this option right
now, but I suppose it is because I've heard this before.  You talked about
getting out of the Marine Corps when we first moved to DC.  You talked about
it again about six months ago - before the parade season started.  Do I
think the Marine Corps is causing our problems?  No, I don't.  Do I think
you'll be happier out of the Marine Corps?  No, I don't.  I think that you
love the Marine Corps and you're a great Marine.  What you don't like is
that fact that you can't separate yourself from the BS of 8th and I.  You
saw it when you first checked in and said that you didn't want to become one
of them - and that's exactly what you've done.  You've become one of the
pretentious 8th & I Marine officers.  You're only concerned about your
reputation and your image - I don't know why you care - you've been working
so hard to ruin it as far as I can tell.  You say you want to do more and
give back to more relevant things - like Haiti relief, etc, but you haven't
tried to get more involved in a church or a volunteer community.  Why should
I believe that you would do any of that if you get out of the Marine Corps?
Outside of the Marine Corps, you will still have to get a job - a job where
you'll have to belong to corporate America and deal with just as much BS as
you did in the Marine Corps just on a different level.  

	I'm sorry if this is coming across as angry - but I am angry.  I'm
angry.  I'm frustrated.  I'm hurt.  I love you so much, Jim, but I don't'
know what to do anymore.  I don't want to lose you, but I also don't want to
be a fool.  I just want you to stop lying to me.